So, I'll be writing on here about all sorts of stuff that interests me like world events, my career, my kitties (crazy cat lady here!), beauty and fashion, and lots more. Today, I thought I'd write a little bit about my long hair quest.
Something like 4-5 years ago, I had hair to my waist. It was super long, but not in the best condition because I colored it with box dyes and used whatever shampoo and conditioner I could find. Later, I went through some major life changes and decided to cut it off into a short, chin-length bob and I wore it like this for several years.
Recently, I've been missing my beautiful hair forks that I bought on Etsy, all the great updos I learned, and the feeling of long hair when it's cold, so starting earlier this year I began growing it out again. I cut out all of the dye gradually and then I went back to an old haunt of mine, the
Long Hair Community. I have gotten an amazing amount of information from the forums and made some good friends there!
So, what are some of the main things I've learned?
1. Stop with the blow drying and flat ironing. Just stop. Maybe for special occasions it's ok, but otherwise, STOP!
2. Box dye is the devil.
3. Sulfates in shampoos strip the hair and absolutely kill it. I now use only sulfate-free shampoo (and even then, I rarely shampoo, but more on that in a later post).
4. Silicones may temporarily give hair slip, but they also coat hair keeping moisture out along with any oils or moisturizing treatments you use to treat dryness. If your hair is crunchy and dry, try a clarifying shampoo (you can even add baking soda) to get the silicones out (most of which are not water soluble, so this is tricky) and then treat it with a nice oil (I prefer argan oil).
5. Even sulfate-free shampoo is a bit much for my delicate hair, so I have gone to conditioner-only washing. Use a very lightweight and silicone-free (I cannot stress this enough) conditioner and apply it all over the head and scalp. Comb through with a wide-toothed comb. The gentle surfactants in the conditioner will get the hair clean without stripping like shampoo does. Try to avoid conditioners with protein as these can make the hair brittle and crunchy. Also, go for cheap conditioners for this as you have to use a lot of product. I am now using shampoo only once about every 2 or 3 weeks and conditioner washing the rest of the time.
6. Never. EVER. Brush wet hair. Repeat after me: Never, ever brush wet hair. You know that "snap" you hear when you do? That's your precious hair breaking off. Just leave it alone, or finger comb it. If you must, you can use a wide-toothed comb, but it's best not to even comb it until it's dry, unless you have a problem with tangling.
7. Stretch time between washes if you can. I have learned that I can't stretch quite as long as some people because I have an oily scalp. I wash about every 3 days. Some that stretch their washes can go a week if they have a dry scalp. Make sure you brush frequently if you do this, but do it with a boar bristle brush. This will loosen dirt and it will also distribute your hair's natural oils from the scalp through the ends of the hair.
8. You try to keep your hair looking clean and fresh and then you go and use those filthy brushes? Shampoo your brushes at least once a week! I do this on Sunday when I wash my makeup brushes (which keeps me from breaking out).
9. Ditch the elastics once your hair is long enough. I'm still using them right now since I can't get it into a bun, but once I can, I will be putting it in buns and using spin pins or braiding it and using a gentle clip. Elastics cause tons of damage. If you must use them, use the kind without the metal on them. When my hair was very, very long a few years ago, I used only spin pins and my wooden hair forks from Etsy.
10. I got myself a satin pillowcase and I am amazed at the reduced hair breakage. I thought Oprah was ridiculous when she suggested this on her show, but then I just happened to get one for my dreamy Tempurpedic pillow and yeah, I noticed the difference.
11. Box dyes are evil (I think maybe I said this already...). I used them for years and then tried to condition the crap out of my hair to make up for the abuse. Recently, I discovered
Lush henna. Not only does it impart a lovely color, but it makes the hair stronger and super shiny and silky, since henna coats the hair shaft and this particular henna is in a cocoa butter base. Love it!
So, in a nutshell - baby your hair! Try ditching sulfates and silicones and using protein sparingly. Try experimenting with oils such as coconut and olive oil (millions of gorgeous Indian women cannot be wrong). Stop frying it with dyes and heat styling. Stop ripping through it with a brush when it's wet and for the love of Pete, don't rip out rubber bands and bobby pins. Just because your hair has nerves, that doesn't mean it doesn't feel the pain of abuse! And now that I've put my hair in an oiled damp braid, I'm ready for sleep. I'll wash it out in the morning and it will be soft and awesome. Goodnight, everybody!
Emily Rachel Gilley